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We all have a
tendency to get our heads wrapped up with the idea that we have of a perfect
man. We are hopeless romantics who keep falling for the wrong man, but are
still in search of our own prince charming. But at some point in our lives, we
reach our peak level. We get tired and at last, we surrender. That’s when we
begin to settle. It doesn’t matter if the person we’re dating doesn’t meet out
criteria of an ideal man. As long as he keeps our ego level at check, he keeps
us company and avoids us from being put into awkward situations such as the
single club, we’re okay with that. That shouldn’t be the case at all. AT ALL.
Settling only
prevents us from meeting the right person and it keeps us in the relationship
for all the wrong reasons. You don’t have to cut down the characteristics
you’re looking for in a man just so for the sake of it. The right man will come
and he will rise to meet your ideals. He will finally make you realize why it
never worked out with anyone else. But you have to channel all these
characteristics from yourself first. Be the person you’d want to date and
eventually marry.
Dating doesn’t
really mean you should be together. No. Dating is going out for dinner and
genuinely getting to know each other. If date number 1 doesn’t work out, don’t
push it. Move on.
How to channel
the right person to your life?
1) Be
yourself, not the person people dictate you to be
If
you’re not honest with yourself in the first place, then how could you attract
the right person to your life? Think about it.
P.S.
This also goes with: Know what you want and be specific about it. Unless you
don’t really know what you want, you wouldn’t know who the prince charming
really is amongst all the frogs.
2) Be
your best self
Learn
new skills and explore new hobbies. Dress well for yourself; impress no one but
yourself.
3) Be
comfortable on your own
You
don’t always need to have an entourage with you just so you could go to a place
you’ve been dying to visit, or do something you’ve always wanted to try. I’m
not against that, but don’t you think it’s nice to have some “me time”
sometimes? Go just stroll around, walk on your own pace, listen to your
thoughts and maybe even figure out something new by yourself. Plus, no man
wants a woman who is so dependent on others. Be brave. You’re not a loner
(screw whoever tells you that), you’re just a lady who decided to saunter the
beauty of the world on her own stilettos.
4) Be
open
People
will come and go. Not everything will fall accordingly as you want it to be.
Don’t let this dishearten you. Instead, take this as a turning point and move
on.
5) Be
out there
Go
out and meet people! You don’t get to find “the one” when you’re at home,
sulking and devouring that bag of chips. But, never make it a point to leave
the house because you’re in “search” for him. You’re not a dog looking for his
owner. You’re a smart and classy individual who is not just there looking for
attention. Always do things with the right intentions.
Finally, don’t
try too hard. The best things always come at the most unexpected times. He’ll
find his way to you, and you to his. Don’t rush it.